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I'm reading a couple of personal development books right now, so naturally I've got all things personal development on my mind.
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And that also means all things spiritual development. Because if you really think about it, they are pretty much the same.
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Self awareness, just like it is crucial to having healthy relationships in this dunya, is also necessary to our relationship with Allah. Being aware of ourselves, our strengths and our weaknesses, what we are passionate about and what makes us tick, is the first step in developing a completely honest relationship with Allah.
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A relationship where we can be grateful for what we have, and know what we want to ask for. A relationship where we can confess our shortcomings and ask for help. A relationship in which we can see a small glimpse of the beauty of the Creator through His amazing creation.
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And when we truly understand our deepest values and beliefs, those truths we refuse to budge on, we will also be able to see our iman flourish. Because when we know what is within ourselves, we can be sure we are walking our own spiritual paths.
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I have seen myself how powerful it is to regain my confidence I my own spiritual path and my relationship with Allah; every aspect of my outer practice has developed from and is informed by that inner deep understanding and passion for what I believe in.
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Not because my culture says it's like this. Not because some aunty at the mosque scolded me on that. Not because my family or community pressured me to be like this. Not because some random reminders account told me I "must."
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We as a community tend to focus completely on what someone is doing on the outside. But really we can't just focus on and expect change in the superficial without first looking to the internal state. Because growth starts from within, and as we gradually learn and open our minds and hearts, the outer aspects of Islamic practice will start to become more natural.
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As always I would love to hear from y'all. What are some external areas of your deen that you feel like you are struggling with? And what could you start changing internally that could help you grow into that external factor?
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 54
Salaam and happy weekend! .
It took me a while after I converted to really understand the idea of "love for the sake of Allah."
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Alhamdulillah blogging and finding my online community has definitely started to show me what the real meaning of sisterhood in Islam is, and how absolutely beautiful it is to love someone based solely on the fact that you both love Allah.
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As I was reflecting on this topic, this Maya Angelou quote came to my mind. I have been in a state of constant evaluation lately, as I begin to put out more content, I truly want to make sure that whatever I am posting is beneficial, and keeping my intentions pure.
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But this quote reminded me of another aspect of my online space: how I want someone to feel when they are in my little corner of the internet.
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I want people to feel inspired and motivated for sure, and I want to be the kind of person that reminds others of Allah. But I also want you to feel comfortable and accepted when you interact with me.
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My social media and blog are and will always be, in shaa Allah, a judgement free zone. Whether I can see it or not, you've got stuff to work on. Whether you see it or not, I've got stuff to work on.
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The point is not to all be the same, all be practicing at the level of the angels, but instead to be starting where each one of us is and growing together.
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I like to think of our little Islamic sisterhood like a patch of wildflowers. All very different and all in different stages of growth, but all unique and beautiful together 😊
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Just wanted to share that little Saturday thought with you. As always, feel free to get in touch via social or my website! I love to get to know my sisters in Islam. .
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#sisterhood  #Islam  #personalgrowth  #personaldevelopment  #wildflower  #risingtideliftsallboats  #womenempowerment  #loveforthesakeofallah  #sistersindeen  #quotes 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 53
Swipe left for this week's dua that I'm working on for @quranjournal 's #52weekduachallenge  !!
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This is week 2 for me, so I am on the second "rabbana" dua. Alhamdulillah last week's dua is successfully commuted to memory 😊
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Anyone else want to join in? It's never to late to start!
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#52weekduachallenge2018  #dua  #supplication  #prayer  #memorize  #rabbana  #duachallenge  #rabbanaduas  #quranicdua 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 45
So, I've never done this before, but kept seeing everybody's posts about their "focus word" for 2018 and whenever I saw one of those posts pop up the first word that came to my mind was abundance. So I decided to roll with it.
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The thing is, 2018 has not felt very abundant so far. I had some huge goals and plans for January to kick of the year, and some have happened, but many have been delayed.
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Which has me automatically feeling like a failure.
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But that's not really the point. A delay in plans does not mean a failure, and not having things go my way is actually completely compatible with my goal of abundance.
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Because abundance is first and foremost what is on the inside.
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So today I am working on my trust in Allah swt and His timing, and I am working on gratitude to Him for all the good I have seen so far in my transition from 2017 to 2018.
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And in shaa Allah eventually (within the next 11 months we have in this year!) I will start to see some of that abundance come alive externally. .
Do y'all do words of the year? If so I would love to hear them! If not, I would love to hear your reflections on abundance as well 😊
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#abundance  #2018  #newyear  #wordoftheyear  #allahsplan  #allahstimingisbest  #january  #inspiration  #reflections  #Islam  #convert  #gratitude  #trustallah 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 39
A big part of this year's focus word, abundance, also has to do with gratitude. As I mentioned in yesterday's post, abundance starts from within, and that change can only start to happen when you are actively recognizing and being thankful for the things that you do have.
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I used to do a #mondaygratitude  post every week, but then I got caught up in my affirmations project and now the 52 week dua challenge that I am participating in...But I still want to make gratitude and active and conscious effort in my everyday.
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So today I thought I would share some things I'm grateful for; they are all small things, they don't seem like much, but when I actively think of each of these tiny things that makes my life so much more comfortable/joyful/etc. it sure does add up.
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I'm grateful for cat cuddles, for loose leaf teas, for nice notebooks to write in, for books to enjoy, for hobbies to unleash creativity, for sisters in Islam, for cozy slippers and sweaters, for my mother in law's cooking, for the ability to do exercise.
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The list could go on, but I'll leave it at that.
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The point is I don't have any of those things that people desire, that they consider huge blessings. I don't have my own house (I don't even have running water in my rented house), I don't have a nice car, my clothes are all 2016 or older. I don't go out to nice restaurants, I don't even have my family close by me.
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By all means I don't live what is considered an "affluent" life in terms of possessions.
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But when I start listing out each of the little things that makes me happy every day, I come to realise that my cup truly is overflowing. Alhamdulillah I have what is most important, and in shaa Allah the rest will come in time.
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This post in and of itself has been an eye opening exercise for me. On a day when I was feeling down about my situation and wishing to just be moving on to the next stage in my life, I took the time to write a short list of things I appreciate, and now I feel like I cannot say alhamdulillah enough.
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Because even in the trials that I face are so many lessons and so many opportunities to grow. Alhamdulillah.
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 43
This is one hadith that has really revolutionised the way I make dua...and I think it also has everything to do with abundance. .
When you are asking Allah from a place of scarcity, you are essentially saying in your brain that, yes I'm asking, but I'm not really sure You will give me.
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Are we doubting Allah's power? Or perhaps His mercy and His generosity...
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And when we make dua like that we are really just decreasing our chances of getting it answered, which leads to more scarcity mindset, and on and on. .
On the other hand, how would it change our supplication if we made dua from a place of abundance? Of gratitude for all that Allah has given us, and remembering His mercy upon His servants.
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When we make dua with certainty in our hearts that, if Allah gave us the tawfeeq and the words to ask, He *wants* to give us, how many doors would that open up?
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He loves to be called upon and He loves to answer His servants. .
This is one practice that I am really trying to work on in my duas this year, but I would love to hear from you what this hadith means to you as well!!
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#dua  #supplication  #Islam  #alrahman  #convert  #abundance  #generosity  #love  #gratitude  #askallah  #tawfiq  #tawfeeq 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 61
Salaam and happy Friday all! .
I'm currently on the road so I just wanted to pop by really quick and remind you that this Instagram account is connected to my blog...so if you like what you see why not head over to the link in the bio and check out the rest?!
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There is a new post out this morning called "My Body, My Amanah," about the link between our physical bodies and our spiritual selves. It's not something I write a lot about, but I've kind of enjoyed this month's theme of physical body and wellness over on the blog! .
You can also sign up for the newsletter via the link in the bio, where you will get some of my more personal reflections and thoughts, plus a free PDF checklist that I created with a few actionable steps you can take to "Beat the Iman-Slump!" .
How are you all doing this Friday? Any fun plans for the weekend? 😁
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#blogging  #newblogpost  #blogger  #muslimahblogger  #convert  #revert  #mybodymyamanah  #wellness  #holistichealth  #mindbodyspirit  #amanah  #newsletter 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 50
I was browsing the other day and came upon this quote, and it really stood out to me.
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Then a couple of days later in my tafsir class we discussed aya 261 of Surah Baqarah, in which Allah makes the analogy of His reward for spending in His way being like an ear of corn or grain, and each grain falls and produces so many more ears with so many more grains.
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I want to keep my reflections short today, but I was thinking about just how perfectly this illustrates abundance within our deen. .
Even if we don't have extra money to spend (which we probably do even if we don't think we do because we have scarcity mindsets), there are so many other ways to give abundantly to those around us in need.
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And when we give of whatever we have, we can't even imagine how much Allah will multiply that for us, in this world and the next in shaa Allah.
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Sounds to me like that pretty much sums up abundance.
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I'm going to leave it there today, but I would love to hear your thoughts and reflections on this as well! .
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#abundance  #sadaqah  #charity  #surahbaqarah  #spendinthewayofallah  #abundancemindset  #giveabundantly  #scarcitymindset 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 36
Week three of @quranjournal 's #52weekduachallenge  ! Unfortunately my memorization got a little derailed last week and I'm on the same dua 😕
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How is everyone else doing? It's never too late to join!
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#52weekduachallenge2018  #dua  #supplication  #prayer  #memorization  #muslimah  #convert  #revert  #quranjournal  # Quran #rabanna  #rabbanaduas  #40rabbanaduas 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 35
I've always loved travelling. I've always loved trains and airports and suitcases and the feeling that I'm going somewhere. I've always loved seeing and experiencing and learning something new.
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Which is why, when I first heard this hadith, I really didn't get it. What torture was there in trying yummy new foods and meeting cool new people?
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Just recently I've come to realise what this hadith is really talking about though: this hadith isn't talking about tourism or vacationing, but travelling out of necessity. .
Though I've been on the move a lot for the past few years (3 continents since 2014 to be exact), the real meaning of this hadith didn't even sink in until just this past week or so.
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I was supposed to be travelling, got partway there, plans got derailed, I was living out of a duffel bag in my hotel, only to return to where I had been trying to leave in the first place.
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It was truly torture.
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And it made me reflect on just how tired the past few years have made me...yes I have experienced and learned so much, but I am for sure ready to have somewhere to hang my hat (khimar?) more permanently. Somewhere to rest and recharge, to store my things so I don't have clothes scattered across so many different countries.
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Like I mentioned though, alhamdulillah I have had the opportunity to learn and experience so much in this nomadic past couple of years, not only about myself and the world around me, but some big lessons in spirituality too. In shaa Allah I'll be writing a blog post on that soon!
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In the meantime, what are your thoughts on this hadith? .
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#travel  #nomad  #learning  #culture  #northamerica  #africa  #europe  #california  #home  #someplacetocallhome  #hadith  #seerah  #sunnah  #liveasatraveller  #dunya  #nomadiclifestyle 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 58
Like I mentioned in yesterday's post, I've learned a lot from living on three different continents in the past few years.
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One of those lessons, and a big one I think, is the true meaning of minimalism.
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When you are often between houses and places and countries, you don't really get the chance to accumulate so much stuff.
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Every time you pack your bags is an exercise in paring down, taking only the essentials.
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Plus, where I have been living in North Africa for the past year and a half now, I don't have any of the comforts I am used to living in the USA or Europe.
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I don't have reliable running water in my house. Wi-Fi is a luxury, and a slow, expensive one at that. Electricity comes and goes, qualified professionals like doctors or mechanics are few and far beteeen. I don't even have a bookstore I can visit.
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Not only has this lifestyle taught me gratitude for those things I do have, but it has taught me minimalism in the sense that it has showed me what I am capable of living *without*. .
Which is a very important lesson for my mid-20s, white, privileged American self. And one I don't think I would've learned without the pain of experiencing it first hand.
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This is the kind of thing that has been on my mind this week...in shaa Allah I hope to be writing a more in depth blog post with all of these reflections soon!
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I would love to hear from any other expats, especially those living around North Africa; what have your experiences been like?
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Also, if you are wondering, the photo is from a recent trip to Tunisia's capital city, Tunis. One of my favorite little cafes in the city centre, with lovely mint tea!
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#travel  #nomad  #tunis  #tunisia  #nomadic  #minimalism  #packing  #takeonlywhatyoucancarry  #plane  #airport  #drive  #gratitude  #alhamdulillah  #lessons  #travelandlearn  #usa  #europe 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 59
Reflecting on minimalism yesterday got me thinking more about what is actually constant in my life, and what is really important.
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I may be learning and growing and shedding old things as I travel to new places, I may be losing or leaving behind some things, and finding new things in my new destination.
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But the one thing that always comes with me, no matter where I am going or what I am doing, is my Islam.
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I always carry my tasbeeh and my Fortress of the Muslim in my purse (and even a miswak for when my teeth feel icky!), I've always got my salah, no matter what country I am in. .
And most importantly, I always have Allah swt. He is always there, always giving me His protection and guidance as I go. It is His plan leading me forward, and no matter where I go in this world, the end destination is always to Him.
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I am on the road again today, and though my prayers are shortened and combined, I am striving to keep this hadith top of mind, and remember Allah swt as often as possible, in whatever situation I find myself in!
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I would love to hear some ways y'all hold on to your spiritual practices and remembering Allah when you are travelling, whether long distance or just out and about! .
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#travel  #nomad  #dhikr  #rememberallah  #shortenedprayers  #airport  #trainstation  #plane  #train  #onthego  #Islam  #convert  #revert  #muslimah  #muslimahtravels  #spirituality  #islamicspirituality  #trip  #tourism  #vacation  #holiday 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 77
Salaam and happy Friday! I'm just dropping a quick post today to let you know that it is officially February already ( 😱 ) and the Hadith of the Month post is live! Link is in the bio 😊 This month's hadith is on kindness, alhamdulillah it is one of my favorites! Don't forget you can also sign up for my newsletter at the link in the bio 😉
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 34
Salaam alaikum everyone! I've got some things going on over here and I feel like I've got a lot on my plate...don't worry, nothing terrible, just life things! At any rate I'm going to take a few days of break from posting here; in shaa Allah I'll do my Monday dua challenge post but that will be it. I'm hoping I can come back from my break feeling refreshed an excited to get back to writing! I'll still be around the internet, so you can always feel free to DM or comment and I'll get back to you in shaa Allah! Hope y'all have a great weekend and I'll see you soon.
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 41
Week 5 (I think?!) of @quranjournal 's #52weekduachallenge  ! I'm unfortunately making slow progress...I'm still on the same one as last week! In shaa Allah I'll get it together soon. Swipe left to see my dua for the week, and feel free to join in the challenge!!
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#dua  #52weekduachallenge2018  #supplication  #rabbanaduas  #rabbana  #duachallenge  #prayer  #memorizingduas  #memorization  #learning 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 44
@quranjournal 's #52weekduachallenge  , week 6! I am moving along slowly but surely alhamdulillah. Swipe left to see this week's dua that I am memorizing, I'm on my fourth rabanna dua! And just for anyone who is wondering, this dua is in the context of the army of the believers fighting against Goliath - which I didn't know until I read the whole ayah with tafsir! .
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#52weekduachallenge2018  #dua  #prayer  #supplication  #rabbana  #rabannadua  #quran  #memorizingduas  #memorize  #muslimah  #revert  #convert  #spirituality 
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 39
Better late than never for week 7 of @quranjournal 's #52weekduachallenge  ! Still on the same dua this week alhamdulillah, swipe left to see it! Don't forget to join in and tag Quran Journal in your posts! .
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3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 27
If there is one thing that I have learned since I converted to Islam, it is that none of this is in my hands. I have seen so many examples since early 2014 of how Allah swt has plans for me that I know nothing about. So, so many times I have found myself in a situation and just sitting there thinking subhanAllah, look at where I am and how I got here.
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I think about how I became a Muslim, about how I met and married my husband, about how I came to live in North Africa. I think even about the most mundane things; subhanAllah how I came to wear jilbab, or write a blog, or have deep connections with sisters all over the world. SubhanAllah.
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I saw another big example of Allah's planning in my life just this week. I've been having a lot of ideas and working on a lot of exciting things these days, and I have some big plans for the future. Just a few days ago though, I had some conversations that could significantly change some of those plans and ideas.
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Yes, it is scary to stark making a big idea a reality. It is even more scary to potentially change that idea and make it even bigger. In some ways things could change for the better, in some ways maybe not.
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But the thing is, I am learning to trust Allah swt with it. I make my plans and my duas, and He makes His plans and answers my duas in His own way. So today I am making my duas for guidance with full certainty in my heart that whatever His plan for me, it will be the most beautiful plan. Because how many times have I made my own plans just to find out that He had something so much better for me?
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Being a recovering control freak, it feels really good to give up the control and the stress, and just have some trust in the process and in His plans and perfect timing.
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And even though I don't have a new blog post today like I planned, you can still head over to the link in the bio for my free checklist, newsletter, or to head over to the blog to read some more reflections. .
I hope that if you are going through some changes or transition, remember that whatever the end destination is, it is what He planned for you, so sit back and enjoy the journey!
3/06/2018 (Tue) ❤ 33
30 Days of Affirmations: Day 15
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To myself first today, and then to all my Muslim sisters 💕
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#affirmations  #reminders  #ummah  #loveforthesakeofallah  #sisterhood  #reflections  #loveyourself  #selflove  #selfcare 
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